What do you think about marriage or shaadi? Different people have different answers to the same question. Some says marriage is noting it is just selecting your jeevan sathi or life partner so that you can spend your whole life with her or him. India is a diverse, multi-cultural country with people of various religions, communities and sects living together in harmony and peace. Each community has its own set of religious rituals, traditions and multitudes of customs inherited from ancestors.
Normally marriage is also categorized in two types:
1) Arranged Marriage
2) Love Marriage.
Arranged marriage: is one such common custom handed down over generations. Arranged marriage has played an important role in Indian marriages. This concept is even today accepted by millions of Indians in India and abroad. Marriages, initiated by elders, were arranged with the help of an 'aunt' or the 'priest.' Over a period of time this has slowly transitioned from the marriage brokers to the newspapers and now onto the Internet.
Love Marriage: is a union of two parties based upon affection and a mutual attraction between the individuals. The term opposite to arranged marriage and forced marriage especially in India and some other countries near it. Somewhere it is also known as or defined as self-arranged marriages.
In love marriage you yourself select your partner as the above definition says, it's a union of two parties based upon affection and mutual attraction. But in an arranged marriage, how do you or your parents select your partner?
* Either by marriage agents?
* By marriage bureaus?
* Suggestion by relatives?
* By advertise in a local society? Like geeta bhavan or any other.
* By advertising in news paper?
* Or online through a matrimony site?
The use of internet is also increasing in this area also. Internet has revolutionized the way people communicate. Today, there are several india matrimonial [http://www.shubhbarat.com] sites some aimed to a particular community/religion and some to the general public. These sites literally make the world seem a smaller place.
With such types of web sites your parents doesn't go here and there. Just sign up and be busy on the phone. The concept of online matrimonial has become increasingly popular because it gives people up-front, at the click of a mouse, access to thousands of eligible singles, which neither newspapers nor marriage bureaus can ever offer.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Traditions Involved in a Contemporary Hindu Wedding.
1) Roknaa (Marriage Fixed Ceremony)
Profile: In this ceremony there is a formal visit between groom, bride and their parents. The meaning of this ceremony is to stop looking for matches any further.
Date: This ceremony can be held several months before the wedding.
Time: It is generally held in the evening.
Venue: Usually at bride's home
Organized By: bride's family
Gifts: No gifts
Puja: no puja
Banquet: light meal like snacks, sweets
2) Engagement
Profile: In this ceremony Bride and Groom exchange rings called the engagement ring.
Date: This ceremony can held several months before the wedding.
Time: It is generally held in the evening.
Venue: banquet hall, hotel, resort
Organized By: Usually by bride's family
Gifts: No gifts Puja: no puja Banquet: luncheon / dinner
3) Tilak Ceremony
Profile: There are two Tilak ceremonies: one is of the bride and other is of the groom. In bride's Tilak ceremony groom doesn't come and in the groom's Tilak ceremony bride doesn't come. However parents and relatives of bride and groom are present in both ceremonies.
Date: This ceremony can held one day after the engagement or with the engagement.
Time: Morning / Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: Bride and groom's family
Gifts: In bride's Tilak ceremony gifts are given to the groom's relatives (this rite is known as Milnni) and Jewellery is received by bride from groom's parents.
Puja: a pundit performs Puja Banquet: luncheon / Dinner
4) Ladies' Sangeet
Profile: In this ceremony friends and other female relatives of bride and her parents sing and dance. There is a mehendi ceremony also in which an artist decorates the bride's palm with mehendi. There can also be a DJ / DJ floor. Only friends and other female relatives of bride and her parents are invited in this ceremony.
Date: This ceremony held one day before the wedding.
Time: Morning / Evening. Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: bride's family
Gifts: no gifts
Puja: no puja Banquet: light meal like snacks, sweets
5) Shaadi (Wedding)
Profile: In this ceremony bride and groom get married.
Date: decided by groom and bride 's parents with the help of an astrologer.
Time: Usually Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort, Marriage hall, Marriage garden, ground or park.
Organized By: Usually by bride's family Gifts: guest give gifts to bride and groom.
Puja: a pundit performs Puja. Bride and groom perform phera (moving in circle) in a mandap.
Banquet: multi-cuisine dinner
6) Reception
Profile: The purpose of this ceremony is to introduce bride with all the family members of groom.
Date: This ceremony held one day after the wedding.
Time: Usually Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: Groom's family
Gifts: Guests give gifts to bride and groom
Puja: no Puja
Banquet: multi-cuisine dinner
Profile: In this ceremony there is a formal visit between groom, bride and their parents. The meaning of this ceremony is to stop looking for matches any further.
Date: This ceremony can be held several months before the wedding.
Time: It is generally held in the evening.
Venue: Usually at bride's home
Organized By: bride's family
Gifts: No gifts
Puja: no puja
Banquet: light meal like snacks, sweets
2) Engagement
Profile: In this ceremony Bride and Groom exchange rings called the engagement ring.
Date: This ceremony can held several months before the wedding.
Time: It is generally held in the evening.
Venue: banquet hall, hotel, resort
Organized By: Usually by bride's family
Gifts: No gifts Puja: no puja Banquet: luncheon / dinner
3) Tilak Ceremony
Profile: There are two Tilak ceremonies: one is of the bride and other is of the groom. In bride's Tilak ceremony groom doesn't come and in the groom's Tilak ceremony bride doesn't come. However parents and relatives of bride and groom are present in both ceremonies.
Date: This ceremony can held one day after the engagement or with the engagement.
Time: Morning / Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: Bride and groom's family
Gifts: In bride's Tilak ceremony gifts are given to the groom's relatives (this rite is known as Milnni) and Jewellery is received by bride from groom's parents.
Puja: a pundit performs Puja Banquet: luncheon / Dinner
4) Ladies' Sangeet
Profile: In this ceremony friends and other female relatives of bride and her parents sing and dance. There is a mehendi ceremony also in which an artist decorates the bride's palm with mehendi. There can also be a DJ / DJ floor. Only friends and other female relatives of bride and her parents are invited in this ceremony.
Date: This ceremony held one day before the wedding.
Time: Morning / Evening. Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: bride's family
Gifts: no gifts
Puja: no puja Banquet: light meal like snacks, sweets
5) Shaadi (Wedding)
Profile: In this ceremony bride and groom get married.
Date: decided by groom and bride 's parents with the help of an astrologer.
Time: Usually Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort, Marriage hall, Marriage garden, ground or park.
Organized By: Usually by bride's family Gifts: guest give gifts to bride and groom.
Puja: a pundit performs Puja. Bride and groom perform phera (moving in circle) in a mandap.
Banquet: multi-cuisine dinner
6) Reception
Profile: The purpose of this ceremony is to introduce bride with all the family members of groom.
Date: This ceremony held one day after the wedding.
Time: Usually Evening.
Venue: Banquet hall, Hotel, Resort
Organized By: Groom's family
Gifts: Guests give gifts to bride and groom
Puja: no Puja
Banquet: multi-cuisine dinner
Self-Motivation is the Best Motivation.
Introduction
Today is 05th Nov. 2006 and people in this part of the world are celebrating "Guruparav"... "Birthday of Guru Nanak Dev". I am sitting here and thinking as what is the motive of our life? What is very purpose of our life? What makes us to wake-up early in the morning and rush for work or college or school? What is that keeps us to continue? Is living - a compulsion? Just because everybody is living...I will also live.
What motivates you?
1. Power
2. Position
3. Money
4. Valuable goods and assets
5. Growth
6. Acceptance and Respect
7. Appreciation, rewards and awards
These are the motivators are most of us, right? (Can to list down few more?). These are the good enough motivators to keep us running throughout the life...to keep us charged. These are the factors, which keep some people "loyal like a dog"; "work like a donkey" and "keep jumping...like a monkey".
Some simple (Traditional) Motivators...
Let me discuss some "Orthodox" motivators, which also work, are some people.
1) Responsibility: You might have seen in some movies...might also have seen in your own family, when a guy is irresponsible, spending too much time outside...parents usually say, "Iski Shaadi kar do; jimmeyvari aayegi to khud samajhdaar ho jaayega" (Get him married. Once he gets responsibilities, he too becomes responsible). Don't you think that "enforced responsibility" also motivates some people? Then he knows that now he is not alone...he need to work for his wife, for his family and then for their future. In India,(People say that) things doesn't work until and unless they are enforced or until and unless it is compulsion (no other way).
2) Looking beyond your sight:
A. You are always able to see one side of the coin...you sure want to see the other side.
B. You are able to see a huge mountain...you always want to see...what is there on the other side.
C. You are in a ocean...everywhere you see water, water and only water...you want to know where is the end.
That is called as "Motivation to know more"...motivation to know more than what you already know.
3) Power of Dreams: This is, seeing the unseen. Seeing, what no one has ever seen. Having a dream is a motivation but that is not enough. Passion to make that dreams a reality is a bigger motivation.
A. If you have dream...
B. If you have passion...
C. If you are not afraid to fail...
D. If you are not worried about the end result...
E. If you have zeal to continue, in spite of problems ...
...then no one is more motivated then what you are. You don't need any external motivator. You will always be charged and ready to go.
Learning from life
More than the above mentioned...if you look around, you would find that there are so many small-small and little facts of life; thoughts and experiences around us, which are big enough to keep us, motivated all the time. Have a look at the following:
1) Many parents kill their "unborn children" (Foeticide)...either by chance or by choice. It can be miscarriage or abortion or any other accident. We are fortunate enough that our parents let us to see this "wonderful" world.
2) Many people are unfortunate. They are handicap. They cannot see, cannot listen, cannot talk, they don't have any of the limb...they are suffering from deadly diseases. We are health. Isn't it a good thought to keep us motivated?
3) There are those families, which are poor. They don't earn enough to eat three times in a day. We are doing well enough to eat three times a day...that too hygienic and quality food.
4) People have two sets of dresses (People in some parts of the world...don't have anything to wear). They wash one and wear another one. We have so many in our wardrobe.
5) Many people are not fortunate enough to get good education...either there are no facilities or they just cannot afford. We are educated enough to take our decisions and decide things which are good or bad for us.
6) Those who are educated, not all are employed. We are not only employed but doing good enough to take care of ourselves, our family and chase our dreams.
7) Doesn't matter if it is summer, winter or rainy season...some people are just in care of nature. They don't have house. They don't have place to stay. We have house...that we all call "Home Sweet Home".
8) Everyday there are so many accidents, natural calamities (Cyclone, Floods, Earthquakes etc) killing thousands of people. We are fortunate that we are alive today and are with our family and relatives.
Aren't these fact are good enough for you to keep you motivated and feel satisfied and content.
Conclusion
Life will become miserable...it will become hell if you start
1. Finding faults is others
2. Taking revenge
3. Thinking negative
4. Complaining
5. Harming others
But life will become heaven, if
1. You start counting your blessings
2. You start thinking that there are more people who love you and less people who hate you
3. You start thinking positive about yourself and your life.
Before I sign-off I like to share this quotation, which I found while scanning through Internet, which actually summarize the theme of whole article.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can appreciate that I have a place to call home.
My life stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
It will nice to get your comments and feedback.
With lots of love and care,
Today is 05th Nov. 2006 and people in this part of the world are celebrating "Guruparav"... "Birthday of Guru Nanak Dev". I am sitting here and thinking as what is the motive of our life? What is very purpose of our life? What makes us to wake-up early in the morning and rush for work or college or school? What is that keeps us to continue? Is living - a compulsion? Just because everybody is living...I will also live.
What motivates you?
1. Power
2. Position
3. Money
4. Valuable goods and assets
5. Growth
6. Acceptance and Respect
7. Appreciation, rewards and awards
These are the motivators are most of us, right? (Can to list down few more?). These are the good enough motivators to keep us running throughout the life...to keep us charged. These are the factors, which keep some people "loyal like a dog"; "work like a donkey" and "keep jumping...like a monkey".
Some simple (Traditional) Motivators...
Let me discuss some "Orthodox" motivators, which also work, are some people.
1) Responsibility: You might have seen in some movies...might also have seen in your own family, when a guy is irresponsible, spending too much time outside...parents usually say, "Iski Shaadi kar do; jimmeyvari aayegi to khud samajhdaar ho jaayega" (Get him married. Once he gets responsibilities, he too becomes responsible). Don't you think that "enforced responsibility" also motivates some people? Then he knows that now he is not alone...he need to work for his wife, for his family and then for their future. In India,(People say that) things doesn't work until and unless they are enforced or until and unless it is compulsion (no other way).
2) Looking beyond your sight:
A. You are always able to see one side of the coin...you sure want to see the other side.
B. You are able to see a huge mountain...you always want to see...what is there on the other side.
C. You are in a ocean...everywhere you see water, water and only water...you want to know where is the end.
That is called as "Motivation to know more"...motivation to know more than what you already know.
3) Power of Dreams: This is, seeing the unseen. Seeing, what no one has ever seen. Having a dream is a motivation but that is not enough. Passion to make that dreams a reality is a bigger motivation.
A. If you have dream...
B. If you have passion...
C. If you are not afraid to fail...
D. If you are not worried about the end result...
E. If you have zeal to continue, in spite of problems ...
...then no one is more motivated then what you are. You don't need any external motivator. You will always be charged and ready to go.
Learning from life
More than the above mentioned...if you look around, you would find that there are so many small-small and little facts of life; thoughts and experiences around us, which are big enough to keep us, motivated all the time. Have a look at the following:
1) Many parents kill their "unborn children" (Foeticide)...either by chance or by choice. It can be miscarriage or abortion or any other accident. We are fortunate enough that our parents let us to see this "wonderful" world.
2) Many people are unfortunate. They are handicap. They cannot see, cannot listen, cannot talk, they don't have any of the limb...they are suffering from deadly diseases. We are health. Isn't it a good thought to keep us motivated?
3) There are those families, which are poor. They don't earn enough to eat three times in a day. We are doing well enough to eat three times a day...that too hygienic and quality food.
4) People have two sets of dresses (People in some parts of the world...don't have anything to wear). They wash one and wear another one. We have so many in our wardrobe.
5) Many people are not fortunate enough to get good education...either there are no facilities or they just cannot afford. We are educated enough to take our decisions and decide things which are good or bad for us.
6) Those who are educated, not all are employed. We are not only employed but doing good enough to take care of ourselves, our family and chase our dreams.
7) Doesn't matter if it is summer, winter or rainy season...some people are just in care of nature. They don't have house. They don't have place to stay. We have house...that we all call "Home Sweet Home".
8) Everyday there are so many accidents, natural calamities (Cyclone, Floods, Earthquakes etc) killing thousands of people. We are fortunate that we are alive today and are with our family and relatives.
Aren't these fact are good enough for you to keep you motivated and feel satisfied and content.
Conclusion
Life will become miserable...it will become hell if you start
1. Finding faults is others
2. Taking revenge
3. Thinking negative
4. Complaining
5. Harming others
But life will become heaven, if
1. You start counting your blessings
2. You start thinking that there are more people who love you and less people who hate you
3. You start thinking positive about yourself and your life.
Before I sign-off I like to share this quotation, which I found while scanning through Internet, which actually summarize the theme of whole article.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can appreciate that I have a place to call home.
My life stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
It will nice to get your comments and feedback.
With lots of love and care,
Good Publicity Or Bad Publicity?
It is more than obvious that in Marketing there is no ONE right way to achieve an objective. Similarly there isn't good publicity or bad publicity, there is only publicity. Whichever way you swing it, it still works for you. Now we all know, it is only when you have the knowledge can you use it as your competency. So in this post I would like to explain with an example why we should not right-a-way objectify publicity as either good or bad.
Everyone has seen these ads on Facebook. I do have a screen shot of the same but cannot attach it here due to editorial guidelines. Here is the obvious scenario, it is social media marketing and it is targeted towards Indians (mostly boys), a cheesy provocatively dressed girl shown in the ad campaign with the title "Indian Hotties to date" for a very respected Indian Matrimonial website. I personally feel this is a very poor attempt at online marketing as it is a) deceiving b) below standards c) no clear marketing goals.
I often see people use the terminology SEM or SMM very freely, and more than 80% of these people have a prior programming background with zero marketing experience. Why this is an issue, because the notion around the web world is that you can play around with keywords and call yourself an online marketeer. It is very flawed and aptly skewed. Marketing, regardless of the medium follows a set of protocols within a frame work. I obviously don't mean to curb the creativity out of it but still thats true. One cannot just advertise on random(so called targeted) keywords using CPC(Cost per Click) mode of advertising on search engines. There needs to be a clear marketing strategy in place and a communication strategy in place as well.
Somewhere is the web world the notion of advertising ROI is being confused by just click through rates (CTR). Your ad campaign can be measured by just CTR but what after that, how many prospects have been converted. What was the cost that acquisition? Even if you look that this conundrum from a business sense your VCs and angel investors are not going to be happy with just page hits and CTR figures there needs to be money following in.
Now I did digress a little from the Shaadi.com example simple to explain this fact that, unplanned search marketing can get you clicks but are these even prospective customers? forget sustain, can you even retain any of these? The answer is NO or for some optimistic lads a MAY BE. So the next question is why is the company letting money go to drain? Simple answer, lack of focus; It has been seen that not many companies prefer doing Online marketing at their end so they outsource it any online marketing service provider. There is a tough competition for account acquisition too at the marketeer end. Low quality services always are cheaper, basically cutting costs is proportionate to quality after a threshold obviously. A result of the situation, company picks the lowest project bid, sometimes results in blunders like these.
The question for the future, can they now counter this; when the damage has been done? I believe yes that is possible. A good landing page can still do the trick. Instead of getting them directly at the shaadi.com registration page, get them to a page that explains dating ethics and taps the emotional quotient of relationships. The campaign can be diverted from membership sales to relationship information. All in all I believe that publicity is publicity, good or bad it still gets a bunch of people to talk about you just like me.
Everyone has seen these ads on Facebook. I do have a screen shot of the same but cannot attach it here due to editorial guidelines. Here is the obvious scenario, it is social media marketing and it is targeted towards Indians (mostly boys), a cheesy provocatively dressed girl shown in the ad campaign with the title "Indian Hotties to date" for a very respected Indian Matrimonial website. I personally feel this is a very poor attempt at online marketing as it is a) deceiving b) below standards c) no clear marketing goals.
I often see people use the terminology SEM or SMM very freely, and more than 80% of these people have a prior programming background with zero marketing experience. Why this is an issue, because the notion around the web world is that you can play around with keywords and call yourself an online marketeer. It is very flawed and aptly skewed. Marketing, regardless of the medium follows a set of protocols within a frame work. I obviously don't mean to curb the creativity out of it but still thats true. One cannot just advertise on random(so called targeted) keywords using CPC(Cost per Click) mode of advertising on search engines. There needs to be a clear marketing strategy in place and a communication strategy in place as well.
Somewhere is the web world the notion of advertising ROI is being confused by just click through rates (CTR). Your ad campaign can be measured by just CTR but what after that, how many prospects have been converted. What was the cost that acquisition? Even if you look that this conundrum from a business sense your VCs and angel investors are not going to be happy with just page hits and CTR figures there needs to be money following in.
Now I did digress a little from the Shaadi.com example simple to explain this fact that, unplanned search marketing can get you clicks but are these even prospective customers? forget sustain, can you even retain any of these? The answer is NO or for some optimistic lads a MAY BE. So the next question is why is the company letting money go to drain? Simple answer, lack of focus; It has been seen that not many companies prefer doing Online marketing at their end so they outsource it any online marketing service provider. There is a tough competition for account acquisition too at the marketeer end. Low quality services always are cheaper, basically cutting costs is proportionate to quality after a threshold obviously. A result of the situation, company picks the lowest project bid, sometimes results in blunders like these.
The question for the future, can they now counter this; when the damage has been done? I believe yes that is possible. A good landing page can still do the trick. Instead of getting them directly at the shaadi.com registration page, get them to a page that explains dating ethics and taps the emotional quotient of relationships. The campaign can be diverted from membership sales to relationship information. All in all I believe that publicity is publicity, good or bad it still gets a bunch of people to talk about you just like me.
Nice Places to Go For Indian Matchmaking.
Shaadi is one of the leading online dating sites that match Indian singles. Indian matchmaking is one of the most dynamic in the world. This is mainly because they have a rich culture of matchmaking that has been the source of great debate. The spice in culture is definitely a good thing. More and more Indian singles are looking into new methods of meeting their soul mates. Modernity has not spared them and services like Shaadi, see a lot of curious singles come to them for Indian matchmaking. The online service promises you a world of possibilities in fact; their site states that singles have 10 million possibilities to be matched to a potential mate. The first thing you do in this Indian matchmaker is to create a free profile, then, you will be able to search for members in your chosen criteria. When you find somebody you like, you will communicate with them through chats, email and through telephone.
You will have to agree with me that dating this way is pretty exciting and easy. It is especially tailored for you who do not have the time to go out and meet people. You will be happy to know that you can trust this matchmaker. The reason why many singles become reserved to such services is for the reason that they do not feel secure. There are very many online Indian matchmaking services that you can rely on; just look into a variety and then compare to see which is best. Another interesting Indian matchmaking site is Love Indians. They have proven over and over again that they are a unique service tailored just for you. They are committed to ensure that your profiles and photos are well monitored. This is very essential to maintain anonymity. They reserve the right to approve or reject any profile during 5 working days. This is vital because it will weed out singles that do not appear to be genuine. Profiles which contain the following will not be approved by the service. Advertising, sexual offers, vulgar language, derogatory or demeaning language.
These vices are not appealing to members and, they are certainly a hindrance to good matchmaking. The service will give such singles a chance to remove the unacceptable language if they want to continue making use of the service. It is paramount that you read all the terms and conditions to fully understand what any service requires of you. Indian matchmaking goes beyond online dating. Family members play matchmaker all the time. This is part of an Indian culture which has been practiced for many years. Parents and uncles of a young girl or boy ready for marriage will identify a suitable mate for their child. Many Indian couples who come together this way. They have learnt to love each other and, most relationships have worked. Indian singles will also be found speed dating and, also meeting in social places like festivals, bars and pubs. Before you decide which direction to follow, you need to consider the advantages and disadvantages. The choice that you think is right is worth following. You can also go through many matchmaking methods to you meet your soul mate.
Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Indian Matchmaking
You will have to agree with me that dating this way is pretty exciting and easy. It is especially tailored for you who do not have the time to go out and meet people. You will be happy to know that you can trust this matchmaker. The reason why many singles become reserved to such services is for the reason that they do not feel secure. There are very many online Indian matchmaking services that you can rely on; just look into a variety and then compare to see which is best. Another interesting Indian matchmaking site is Love Indians. They have proven over and over again that they are a unique service tailored just for you. They are committed to ensure that your profiles and photos are well monitored. This is very essential to maintain anonymity. They reserve the right to approve or reject any profile during 5 working days. This is vital because it will weed out singles that do not appear to be genuine. Profiles which contain the following will not be approved by the service. Advertising, sexual offers, vulgar language, derogatory or demeaning language.
These vices are not appealing to members and, they are certainly a hindrance to good matchmaking. The service will give such singles a chance to remove the unacceptable language if they want to continue making use of the service. It is paramount that you read all the terms and conditions to fully understand what any service requires of you. Indian matchmaking goes beyond online dating. Family members play matchmaker all the time. This is part of an Indian culture which has been practiced for many years. Parents and uncles of a young girl or boy ready for marriage will identify a suitable mate for their child. Many Indian couples who come together this way. They have learnt to love each other and, most relationships have worked. Indian singles will also be found speed dating and, also meeting in social places like festivals, bars and pubs. Before you decide which direction to follow, you need to consider the advantages and disadvantages. The choice that you think is right is worth following. You can also go through many matchmaking methods to you meet your soul mate.
Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Indian Matchmaking
Indian Matrimonial.
The wedding' is one of society's most valued traditions, one that is honored worldwide, and more so in India.
However, in the present scenario, while the quest for a prospective companion is getting increasingly demanding, the time that is allotted towards searching for that perfect person has reduced to a great bit, owing to those in the eligible age category focusing strictly on building their careers.
There was a time in the past when the bride and groom were pre requisites for any marriage. The other paraphernalia surrounding marriage was decided only after this all-important decision had been made. However, given the time constraints nowadays, the bride and groom are probably the last things to be zeroed in on, while the clothes, jewellery, venue, etc are all sourced much before. And that, at present is the biggest dilemma of Indian Weddings.
To counter the obstacle posed by limited time, Indian Matrimonial industry has gone through a revamp, and the picture of a marriage broker with a huge diary tucked in with photographs has slowly phased out. The latent need for a medium that would transcend spatial and geographical limitations has led to the rise of the Online Matrimonial Industry. Shaadi.com was the first company of its kind in this line of business, and has been around for 10 years now. Today the site enjoys the first mover advantage not just in terms of brand recognition and acceptability but also in terms of brand presence.
What these online sites do is allow you to search for your perfect one from the comfort of your home and at a time convenient to you, thus doing away with time spent on visiting relatives or prospective relatives homes to find an interesting match.
In today's day and age, 'convenience' is the key word. Online India Matrimonials site have successfully brought better matches, better searches, better tools and greater ease of use to users in their own homes and at their respective time.
Shaadi.com has tools like - Shaadi.com Messenger, AstroSoulmate Search, Shaadi Toolbar, etc - which have enabled it to today boast of over 10 million members and 300 million page views per month and over 8,01,764 successful marriages.
The wedding industry in India is huge and has great potential, however, challenges like limited infrastructure, and a largely unorganized market, have limited the growth rate of this colorful and joyous industry.
Yet, changing trends seem to be indicating a positive future, with the non-conventional matchmaking mediums gaining wider acceptance.
Also, the basic mentality and approach towards these mediums is transforming. Individuals no longer look upon arranged marriage mediums as the last resort to finding your partner, rather matrimonial websites are now considered as a favored means of conveniently getting the kind of person that you have always wanted.
Sunil Pritmani is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting India Matrimonials and Matrimony as a Family and Relationship specialist.
However, in the present scenario, while the quest for a prospective companion is getting increasingly demanding, the time that is allotted towards searching for that perfect person has reduced to a great bit, owing to those in the eligible age category focusing strictly on building their careers.
There was a time in the past when the bride and groom were pre requisites for any marriage. The other paraphernalia surrounding marriage was decided only after this all-important decision had been made. However, given the time constraints nowadays, the bride and groom are probably the last things to be zeroed in on, while the clothes, jewellery, venue, etc are all sourced much before. And that, at present is the biggest dilemma of Indian Weddings.
To counter the obstacle posed by limited time, Indian Matrimonial industry has gone through a revamp, and the picture of a marriage broker with a huge diary tucked in with photographs has slowly phased out. The latent need for a medium that would transcend spatial and geographical limitations has led to the rise of the Online Matrimonial Industry. Shaadi.com was the first company of its kind in this line of business, and has been around for 10 years now. Today the site enjoys the first mover advantage not just in terms of brand recognition and acceptability but also in terms of brand presence.
What these online sites do is allow you to search for your perfect one from the comfort of your home and at a time convenient to you, thus doing away with time spent on visiting relatives or prospective relatives homes to find an interesting match.
In today's day and age, 'convenience' is the key word. Online India Matrimonials site have successfully brought better matches, better searches, better tools and greater ease of use to users in their own homes and at their respective time.
Shaadi.com has tools like - Shaadi.com Messenger, AstroSoulmate Search, Shaadi Toolbar, etc - which have enabled it to today boast of over 10 million members and 300 million page views per month and over 8,01,764 successful marriages.
The wedding industry in India is huge and has great potential, however, challenges like limited infrastructure, and a largely unorganized market, have limited the growth rate of this colorful and joyous industry.
Yet, changing trends seem to be indicating a positive future, with the non-conventional matchmaking mediums gaining wider acceptance.
Also, the basic mentality and approach towards these mediums is transforming. Individuals no longer look upon arranged marriage mediums as the last resort to finding your partner, rather matrimonial websites are now considered as a favored means of conveniently getting the kind of person that you have always wanted.
Sunil Pritmani is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting India Matrimonials and Matrimony as a Family and Relationship specialist.
Searching For A Life Partner - Choose the Online Way.
Your list of friends is long, you are popular among your friends but when it comes to settle down and tie a knot there is always doubt on your mind. Wedding is one of the most important decisions of one's life; there are several things to consider before getting married.
Earlier weddings were settled through friends and relatives. But with the passage of time and hectic lifestyle people hardly get the time to maintain such relations. Matrimonial sites and dating sites are emerging as good option for singles. They work as a meeting ground for singles that are just like them and looking for suitable life partner for themselves.
The popularity of such websites is getting higher, the best things about such matrimonial sites are they provide you an opportunity to set your own criteria and then filter the search suiting your preference. One can easily find a person of his social, cultural and economic class. Such relations are based on better understanding and mutual consent. There are higher chances of successful married life. It saves lots of time and work fast as well. Matrimonial portals are really effective for those singles who lacks time or have less connections. Matrimonial sites offer lots of desirable option all you have to do is to filter them according to your criteria and find the best suitable match for yourself.
Now it is time to take action instead of waiting for your Mr. or Miss Perfect make some effort from your side and find them for yourself. Dating sites and matrimonial sites are right place to start your search. Before signing up with online match making websites for marriage purpose check out the site what they have to offer and their credibility. Most of the sites offer free registration so it will cost you nothing though to avail special services one have to become paid member.
For fast and better result make your profile interesting and genuine. Upload your latest photographs provide all the relevant information about yourself, your family and current status. Be truthful, your fake profile will only create trouble in your life as well as of life of others. Check your profile regularly. Be specific about your partner preference it will save your time. Don't make hasty decision, before taking any serious decision make sure that you have selected a right person for yourself, after all it is a life time commitment.
Earlier weddings were settled through friends and relatives. But with the passage of time and hectic lifestyle people hardly get the time to maintain such relations. Matrimonial sites and dating sites are emerging as good option for singles. They work as a meeting ground for singles that are just like them and looking for suitable life partner for themselves.
The popularity of such websites is getting higher, the best things about such matrimonial sites are they provide you an opportunity to set your own criteria and then filter the search suiting your preference. One can easily find a person of his social, cultural and economic class. Such relations are based on better understanding and mutual consent. There are higher chances of successful married life. It saves lots of time and work fast as well. Matrimonial portals are really effective for those singles who lacks time or have less connections. Matrimonial sites offer lots of desirable option all you have to do is to filter them according to your criteria and find the best suitable match for yourself.
Now it is time to take action instead of waiting for your Mr. or Miss Perfect make some effort from your side and find them for yourself. Dating sites and matrimonial sites are right place to start your search. Before signing up with online match making websites for marriage purpose check out the site what they have to offer and their credibility. Most of the sites offer free registration so it will cost you nothing though to avail special services one have to become paid member.
For fast and better result make your profile interesting and genuine. Upload your latest photographs provide all the relevant information about yourself, your family and current status. Be truthful, your fake profile will only create trouble in your life as well as of life of others. Check your profile regularly. Be specific about your partner preference it will save your time. Don't make hasty decision, before taking any serious decision make sure that you have selected a right person for yourself, after all it is a life time commitment.
Benefits of Online Matrimonial Websites.
In a couple of years online matrimonial websites have become a buzzing hotspot for those seeking a life partner or are interested in dating. Matrimonial websites are today the saving grace for a large number of young individuals who have hectic work lives and spend most of their time online. So if people can't find love on the desk next to them then they can definitely look forward to find love online. Matrimonial websites come with a host of benefits that make love a reality for those who are eluded.
Find the perfect partner
The most important reason for the growth of matrimonial websites is the possibility of finding people. And not just people but the right people. Matrimonial websites allow people to find the life partner they feel is appropriate to spend a lifetime with. A matrimonial website gives the freedom to become friends first and then move on to various levels of relationships.
The search for a life partner becomes very interactive and engaging once a prospective bride or groom has signed up for an account. As soon as one logs in the search begins.
Open private platform
A matrimonial website is a very platform to look for a life partner and yet it is very private. One does not need to approach nose-poking relatives or agents to find a person. A matrimonial website provides a lot of independence and freedom to keep looking.
One can find people according to one's age, nature, lifestyle and any other preference. One can simply chat or send message to initiate a conversation, exchange contact numbers and keep in touch to further discussion.
It becomes easy to talk to someone over the phone or over instant messaging instead of a physical meeting right at the first time. It gives more space to understand and know a person.
Better communication
Messaging, calling and writing to one another opens up the communication which leads to more comfortable meetings and a person finds it easy to communicate with the other. This makes it easy to talk to one another if the couple plans to meet up. There are lesser anxieties. A person is well-prepared for what is coming.
Talking to a person and staying in touch also helps understand a person's culture and family values. Even the way a person presents his or her profile, the kind of pictures one shares speaks a lot about the person.
Be known to hundreds of prospective partners
A matrimonial website is a gate to enter the world of hundreds or may be thousands of prospective partners. One just has to set a few filters as to what one is seeking in a partner.
For example a girl may be seeking a guy who is 5 feet 11 inches, likes to read, follows Christianity, is a little conservative, treats women rightly and is a strong willed guy who likes sports.
A man may mark preferences like only Muslim women, who follow Islam religiously, are a little outgoing, believe sharing responsibilities and must be prepared to live outside India.
One gets to know such preferences for all the profiles they look at which helps them choose whom they like and there are fewer spaces left for any doubts. And the beginning is done on a note of clarity. So the rest of the courting process is easy and quick.
Boon for those seeking a second marriage
Matrimonial websites are also a great boon for those seeking second marriages. People with the same requisite can get in touch and find another life partner to begin a new life and that too with lesser societal hindrances.
If you have decided to tie the knot and settle down in life but don't know where to look. Here's an opportunity waiting for you. Take a step towards matrimony today, log onto a matrimonial websites and create your future.
Find the perfect partner
The most important reason for the growth of matrimonial websites is the possibility of finding people. And not just people but the right people. Matrimonial websites allow people to find the life partner they feel is appropriate to spend a lifetime with. A matrimonial website gives the freedom to become friends first and then move on to various levels of relationships.
The search for a life partner becomes very interactive and engaging once a prospective bride or groom has signed up for an account. As soon as one logs in the search begins.
Open private platform
A matrimonial website is a very platform to look for a life partner and yet it is very private. One does not need to approach nose-poking relatives or agents to find a person. A matrimonial website provides a lot of independence and freedom to keep looking.
One can find people according to one's age, nature, lifestyle and any other preference. One can simply chat or send message to initiate a conversation, exchange contact numbers and keep in touch to further discussion.
It becomes easy to talk to someone over the phone or over instant messaging instead of a physical meeting right at the first time. It gives more space to understand and know a person.
Better communication
Messaging, calling and writing to one another opens up the communication which leads to more comfortable meetings and a person finds it easy to communicate with the other. This makes it easy to talk to one another if the couple plans to meet up. There are lesser anxieties. A person is well-prepared for what is coming.
Talking to a person and staying in touch also helps understand a person's culture and family values. Even the way a person presents his or her profile, the kind of pictures one shares speaks a lot about the person.
Be known to hundreds of prospective partners
A matrimonial website is a gate to enter the world of hundreds or may be thousands of prospective partners. One just has to set a few filters as to what one is seeking in a partner.
For example a girl may be seeking a guy who is 5 feet 11 inches, likes to read, follows Christianity, is a little conservative, treats women rightly and is a strong willed guy who likes sports.
A man may mark preferences like only Muslim women, who follow Islam religiously, are a little outgoing, believe sharing responsibilities and must be prepared to live outside India.
One gets to know such preferences for all the profiles they look at which helps them choose whom they like and there are fewer spaces left for any doubts. And the beginning is done on a note of clarity. So the rest of the courting process is easy and quick.
Boon for those seeking a second marriage
Matrimonial websites are also a great boon for those seeking second marriages. People with the same requisite can get in touch and find another life partner to begin a new life and that too with lesser societal hindrances.
If you have decided to tie the knot and settle down in life but don't know where to look. Here's an opportunity waiting for you. Take a step towards matrimony today, log onto a matrimonial websites and create your future.
Letting Your Parents Choose Your Spouse.
For many people around the world, the tradition of arranged marriages is deep rooted in old world thinking. People around the world marry to honor their families, not for love. But is this always right?
And is the web taking it to an even more ridiculous level by letting parents choose spouses for their children online via matrimonial sites? Well it depends who you ask. Many people love to uphold tradition and wouldn't even dream of breaking it.
Other forward thinking individuals would love to break tradition and do something that truly makes them happy. Either way there are people online looking for marriage every day. You can go to site after site based on matrimonials, and find hundreds of thousands of profiles.
Many of these sites offer an option for parents to sign up , and choose a mate for their children. Although controversial to most English speaking nations, this is commonplace in countries such as India, and Pakistan.
With a population of over 1 billion India is turning into one of the most populous places on the planet. And the same rules apply about love, life and happiness. You need all of them.
If your parents are choosing your mate, then maybe you won't get all three. Although life is a given, that is, until you die. But love and happiness should be determined by the individual in this authors eyes. But again I say, tradition is hard to break, even for the most stubborn.
Would I ever let my parents choose my spouse? No. As a matter of fact, when most parents try to choose spouses for their children in America they only drive them away. Oh, how we are worlds apart.
David is the owner and webmaster of Bride Matrimony, and an expert on marriage and matrimony. If you found this article useful or informative, you may find many more on his blog Bride Matrimony, here.
And is the web taking it to an even more ridiculous level by letting parents choose spouses for their children online via matrimonial sites? Well it depends who you ask. Many people love to uphold tradition and wouldn't even dream of breaking it.
Other forward thinking individuals would love to break tradition and do something that truly makes them happy. Either way there are people online looking for marriage every day. You can go to site after site based on matrimonials, and find hundreds of thousands of profiles.
Many of these sites offer an option for parents to sign up , and choose a mate for their children. Although controversial to most English speaking nations, this is commonplace in countries such as India, and Pakistan.
With a population of over 1 billion India is turning into one of the most populous places on the planet. And the same rules apply about love, life and happiness. You need all of them.
If your parents are choosing your mate, then maybe you won't get all three. Although life is a given, that is, until you die. But love and happiness should be determined by the individual in this authors eyes. But again I say, tradition is hard to break, even for the most stubborn.
Would I ever let my parents choose my spouse? No. As a matter of fact, when most parents try to choose spouses for their children in America they only drive them away. Oh, how we are worlds apart.
David is the owner and webmaster of Bride Matrimony, and an expert on marriage and matrimony. If you found this article useful or informative, you may find many more on his blog Bride Matrimony, here.
How to Increase Your Social Network Members.
Small scale social networking owners always find ways to increase the number of their subscriber members. This is the first thing they do especially when they want people to know that their social networking business exists. Normally, in the web business, you need to get tips to grow your number of members. The more members you have, the higher profit you can make. This can also easily earn you your popularity ratings. One very good technique that you can take for your social networking site to link to people is blogging. If you can make the most of it, then, you are on the direction of increasing the number of your subscriber members. Here are some suggestions for your blogs to become a successful link to increase your members.
When you have a social site, do not forget to include a blog tab for your blogs. This is where comments can be freely expressed by subscribers. You can invite more members if you have interesting topics. This is the number one condition that needs to be satisfied for a remarkable blog. Blog topics that are new and fresh are appealing and motivating. Topics which are already talked about are boring so they should be out of the line. The key note is creating some topics that could stimulate readers to react.
Secondly, commenting to other blogs is showing that you get interested to other people's blogs. It is in this area that you can encourage or stimulate more people to find out about you and your business as well.
The third tip is give people a reason to participate in your blogs. A reward system can be implemented. This is a very effective tool as this can stimulate replies to your blogs. People often feel that they are important if they are given a special prize for what they are doing.
Another thing is talk about your social networking services in your blogs. It is a way of selling your social networking business to them. It is also a way of letting them know that you have such services or got new updates in your social networking sites. In other words, it is a way of advertising your products or services.
Interested and satisfied people who were just your former bloggers can become your subscribers and members if you try the above tips. Blog can create links and you'll see how it would help you with your social site earn a growing number of members.
zzaheer is a Freelance oDesk Provider for SEO, Google AdWords PPC, and Writing (Articles and Press Releases).
When you have a social site, do not forget to include a blog tab for your blogs. This is where comments can be freely expressed by subscribers. You can invite more members if you have interesting topics. This is the number one condition that needs to be satisfied for a remarkable blog. Blog topics that are new and fresh are appealing and motivating. Topics which are already talked about are boring so they should be out of the line. The key note is creating some topics that could stimulate readers to react.
Secondly, commenting to other blogs is showing that you get interested to other people's blogs. It is in this area that you can encourage or stimulate more people to find out about you and your business as well.
The third tip is give people a reason to participate in your blogs. A reward system can be implemented. This is a very effective tool as this can stimulate replies to your blogs. People often feel that they are important if they are given a special prize for what they are doing.
Another thing is talk about your social networking services in your blogs. It is a way of selling your social networking business to them. It is also a way of letting them know that you have such services or got new updates in your social networking sites. In other words, it is a way of advertising your products or services.
Interested and satisfied people who were just your former bloggers can become your subscribers and members if you try the above tips. Blog can create links and you'll see how it would help you with your social site earn a growing number of members.
zzaheer is a Freelance oDesk Provider for SEO, Google AdWords PPC, and Writing (Articles and Press Releases).
Wedding Photography Dos and Don'ts.
Should you or should you not be the camera guy in a wedding party is the question. You will not get paid for the favor, so I am hard pressed to come up with one good reason why you should do it but I can give you many reasons why you shouldn't.
Don't feel bad letting your friend or family know that you will not be able to take on the responsibility because for one it is the most important day of their life and they should really be looking into hiring a professional, not to mention working the camera and all the gear will pretty much ruin your chances of having any fun at the party.
But for some reason if you still decide you want to be the camera guy, here are some tips that will help you survive the day. First of all make sure you have the right equipment to do a semi good job. And by right equipment I mean at least a 5 to 7 megapixel digital SLR camera, so the resolution can support up to 8x10 pictures. If you can only have one lens, go with the 18 - 80mm, preferably high density lens to get sharp pictures. But if you have a choice of lenses then get 2 - 3 to cover close-ups, regular portraits and group snaps. For close up photography, prefer to get a fixed focal length 50mm or 55mm lens. For regular portraits, you can use a 28 - 80mm lens with low dispersion. And last but not least for group photography which is integral to Pakistani and Indian weddings, a wide angle 24mm - 28mm lens with low distortion would do fine.
Another thing to never forget is an external flash light for your camera. Reason for that is the mini built in flashes on the cameras don't have enough power to have much of an impact on your pictures at bigger venues. You should also familiarize yourself with flash photography before the event as at times it can be very difficult to get the pictures with correct exposure and settings with an external flash attached on the camera. Your pictures will either flat out by excessive light or will turn out to be too dark if you don't know what you are dealing with. Amateurs have their best chance sticking with automatic settings on the new super expensive DSLRs rather than trying their luck with manual settings. And last but not least don't forget to get a diffuser for the flash light to get that even tone across your pictures.
Quick check up list before you leave your house for the event:
- Camera with batteries
- Lenses
- External flash with diffuser
- Extra batteries
- Memory card and extra memory card(s)
Good luck, take your A game out there and remember to smile and try to enjoy the excursion.
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Don't feel bad letting your friend or family know that you will not be able to take on the responsibility because for one it is the most important day of their life and they should really be looking into hiring a professional, not to mention working the camera and all the gear will pretty much ruin your chances of having any fun at the party.
But for some reason if you still decide you want to be the camera guy, here are some tips that will help you survive the day. First of all make sure you have the right equipment to do a semi good job. And by right equipment I mean at least a 5 to 7 megapixel digital SLR camera, so the resolution can support up to 8x10 pictures. If you can only have one lens, go with the 18 - 80mm, preferably high density lens to get sharp pictures. But if you have a choice of lenses then get 2 - 3 to cover close-ups, regular portraits and group snaps. For close up photography, prefer to get a fixed focal length 50mm or 55mm lens. For regular portraits, you can use a 28 - 80mm lens with low dispersion. And last but not least for group photography which is integral to Pakistani and Indian weddings, a wide angle 24mm - 28mm lens with low distortion would do fine.
Another thing to never forget is an external flash light for your camera. Reason for that is the mini built in flashes on the cameras don't have enough power to have much of an impact on your pictures at bigger venues. You should also familiarize yourself with flash photography before the event as at times it can be very difficult to get the pictures with correct exposure and settings with an external flash attached on the camera. Your pictures will either flat out by excessive light or will turn out to be too dark if you don't know what you are dealing with. Amateurs have their best chance sticking with automatic settings on the new super expensive DSLRs rather than trying their luck with manual settings. And last but not least don't forget to get a diffuser for the flash light to get that even tone across your pictures.
Quick check up list before you leave your house for the event:
- Camera with batteries
- Lenses
- External flash with diffuser
- Extra batteries
- Memory card and extra memory card(s)
Good luck, take your A game out there and remember to smile and try to enjoy the excursion.
http://www.WedFirm.com - The prestigious, and one of a kind exclusive matrimonial club for distinguished individuals.
Zee TV Drama Serial - Bano Mein Teri Dulhann - Critical Reviews.
Flashes of a Past Life of Sagar & Vidiya:
Amar often feels and gets flashes of a past life which he is unable to understand. He feels a strange attraction to the old mansion of Sagar. He often goes there and just gages at the mansion. He has glimpse of people specially of a young man and a woman over there. He is drawn by a pair of beautiful eyes which seem to have many messages for him but he is unable read them .But unfortunately Diviya has no such feeling may be because she grew up in different culture where superstition has no value . Amar takes Diviya on tour of the old mansion and strangely enough finds the shawl which Sagar had thrown from the balcony on Vidiya.On an impossible as if guided by some unknown hand Amar throws the shawl in a similar way on Diviya. This is a bit too much to swallow . They are not still aware of it. They think that it is only friendship but Bindia who loves Amar is jelous of this closeness. She hints of the fact in a conservation with Amar's mother. She wants Diviya out of Amar's life.
A TASTE OF SINDOORA'S POISONOUS FANGS:
Sindoora proves that she can achieve what she aims for . She has the key to the destiny of all the people around her.She stops Samrat from going out of town to get Diviya by black mailing him with an warrant for killing an endangered deer. Then she let the mad dogs on Aniket to tear him up into pieces if he tries to escape and reach the media. Anket is imprisoned in her farm house and is warned of dire consequences if he tries to escape again. She also wants to control Diviya's life because of her strong resemblance to Vidiya .Anything which is beyond her knowledge frightens her. So she hires a hitman to follow her and find out everything about her and the tourist guide - Amar . She can never escape from the fear of the of prediction-the birth of a child who will bring her end. This fear and the need to assert her supremacy leads her to silence the nosy journalist. The journalist had recorded all the events at the farmhouse when Anikeet is imprisoned.
Dr Altaf Hossain is an article writer who wrote the above from watching the Indian TV serial Dulhann- Bano Mein Teri Dulhann. You may copy the article provided my signature and permission from EzineArticles.com is taken.
Amar often feels and gets flashes of a past life which he is unable to understand. He feels a strange attraction to the old mansion of Sagar. He often goes there and just gages at the mansion. He has glimpse of people specially of a young man and a woman over there. He is drawn by a pair of beautiful eyes which seem to have many messages for him but he is unable read them .But unfortunately Diviya has no such feeling may be because she grew up in different culture where superstition has no value . Amar takes Diviya on tour of the old mansion and strangely enough finds the shawl which Sagar had thrown from the balcony on Vidiya.On an impossible as if guided by some unknown hand Amar throws the shawl in a similar way on Diviya. This is a bit too much to swallow . They are not still aware of it. They think that it is only friendship but Bindia who loves Amar is jelous of this closeness. She hints of the fact in a conservation with Amar's mother. She wants Diviya out of Amar's life.
A TASTE OF SINDOORA'S POISONOUS FANGS:
Sindoora proves that she can achieve what she aims for . She has the key to the destiny of all the people around her.She stops Samrat from going out of town to get Diviya by black mailing him with an warrant for killing an endangered deer. Then she let the mad dogs on Aniket to tear him up into pieces if he tries to escape and reach the media. Anket is imprisoned in her farm house and is warned of dire consequences if he tries to escape again. She also wants to control Diviya's life because of her strong resemblance to Vidiya .Anything which is beyond her knowledge frightens her. So she hires a hitman to follow her and find out everything about her and the tourist guide - Amar . She can never escape from the fear of the of prediction-the birth of a child who will bring her end. This fear and the need to assert her supremacy leads her to silence the nosy journalist. The journalist had recorded all the events at the farmhouse when Anikeet is imprisoned.
Dr Altaf Hossain is an article writer who wrote the above from watching the Indian TV serial Dulhann- Bano Mein Teri Dulhann. You may copy the article provided my signature and permission from EzineArticles.com is taken.
The Art Of Writing A Matrimonial Profile.
You have taken a decision to get married. Then it is the right time that you learn how to create a Matrimonial Profile. There are several things that you should know before you commit yourself to enter into a relationship. Writing a Profile for a job is different from writing a Profile for your Marriage. Here you do not need any marital experience, unless you are in a situation to go for a second marriage.
If you happen to read a few Matrimonial Profiles for selecting a spouse for your marriage, you will be having a calculated idea about your potential Bride or Groom. Yet, if the Profile you read may give some and do not carry the required first hand information, naturally you will move on to the next Profile to see if you could get what you need. You will repeat screening many more Profiles of Matrimony for making the dreams of your wedding true.
While looking at the Profiles with a cursory glance, think for a moment that you are searching a life partner for you. Then you will know what information to look for and what sort of information is not given in that profile, which you think is very essential for you to know and take a decision for a preliminary contact with the person.
Hence, remember that when you present yourself in writing, the reader of your Profile draws an imaginary picture of yours in his or her mind. It is your expression that could brighten or blur this picture you created in the mind of your potential spouse.
Honesty Gets Paid
Be honest in disclosing your details. You can give your original name or a nice, attractive and meaningful Nick Name. Your age is always calculated parallel with your Professional Qualifications. The more you are qualified, the less is the importance of your age. The Profession and the annual income too play an important roll in the selection of a spouse for Matrimony.
Try to give maximum information about yourself. Any Matrimonial Questionnaire covers most of the first hand information a potential spouse needs for the best selection of the profile holder for wedding.
Details of your parents, siblings etc. are an added advantage to disclose about your family set up and social status you enjoy.
Your personal interests, hobbies etc are helpful to judge about the personality and instinct you have within you.
Profile Description
When you write about yourself in the Profile Description column, please note that this is the most important column which will make the reader of your Profile of Matrimony to have a thorough idea about you. This is the column mostly plays the main roll and helps the reader to take a decision whether to select you for a preliminary contact or move on to the next Profile on the list.
Here you describe yourself in a very well articulated manner. Be truthful and honest in disclosing the details. Use polite language giving maximum information about your personality, your job, your earnings; any left out matter you think should be made known to your potential spouse for selection. You have 1000 characters to write well for your marriage. Do not fill the column with Dots, dashes or slashes. Doing so will only reflect your inability to describe yourself. Do not use any single character repeatedly to fill up the entire text box, with or without any space.
Positively write your Partner Preferences for Marriage. This will help the system to auto-match your requirements and send you alert if a new member possessing your Partner preferences registers in the system.
Adding Photographs
Finally, after submitting the filled up Matrimonial Profile, using the Log In and Password sent to your registered Email address, log in to the system, which will take you to your Home Page being created for you. From here you can upload three different photographs - one main photo and two other for the album, depending upon the set up of the program of the Matrimonial Website.
Photographs speak more than 1000 words. Let your photo be a good one, vivid and smart. A person planning for his or her Marriage first searches the Matrimonial Profiles with photographs. By adding the Photo you give your potential spouse a fair chance to form an idea about your personality coupled with the description you have given in your Profile. Photographs help take a spontaneous decision in the selection for preliminary contact for marriage purpose. It has been seen that the Profiles having Photographs receive 5 to 10 times more response from the potential spouses than the ones without Photographs.
If you are reluctant to display your Photographs and believe that though the photographs speak more than 1000 words, they do not speak reality, due to the absence of your photogenic face cut, then you could mention in your Matrimonial Profile that the same will be sent to the person separately on demand, or could be given on the first personal contact with you or with your family.
Naeem Syed is the Founder And CEO of Shaadmaani.Com A Social Worker And Responsible Citizen of India, Naeem Syed has a couple of Websites for the benefit of Citizens of this world. He writes on Social Issues and Cultures. Naeem Syed may be contacted at http://www.Shaadmaani.Com
If you happen to read a few Matrimonial Profiles for selecting a spouse for your marriage, you will be having a calculated idea about your potential Bride or Groom. Yet, if the Profile you read may give some and do not carry the required first hand information, naturally you will move on to the next Profile to see if you could get what you need. You will repeat screening many more Profiles of Matrimony for making the dreams of your wedding true.
While looking at the Profiles with a cursory glance, think for a moment that you are searching a life partner for you. Then you will know what information to look for and what sort of information is not given in that profile, which you think is very essential for you to know and take a decision for a preliminary contact with the person.
Hence, remember that when you present yourself in writing, the reader of your Profile draws an imaginary picture of yours in his or her mind. It is your expression that could brighten or blur this picture you created in the mind of your potential spouse.
Honesty Gets Paid
Be honest in disclosing your details. You can give your original name or a nice, attractive and meaningful Nick Name. Your age is always calculated parallel with your Professional Qualifications. The more you are qualified, the less is the importance of your age. The Profession and the annual income too play an important roll in the selection of a spouse for Matrimony.
Try to give maximum information about yourself. Any Matrimonial Questionnaire covers most of the first hand information a potential spouse needs for the best selection of the profile holder for wedding.
Details of your parents, siblings etc. are an added advantage to disclose about your family set up and social status you enjoy.
Your personal interests, hobbies etc are helpful to judge about the personality and instinct you have within you.
Profile Description
When you write about yourself in the Profile Description column, please note that this is the most important column which will make the reader of your Profile of Matrimony to have a thorough idea about you. This is the column mostly plays the main roll and helps the reader to take a decision whether to select you for a preliminary contact or move on to the next Profile on the list.
Here you describe yourself in a very well articulated manner. Be truthful and honest in disclosing the details. Use polite language giving maximum information about your personality, your job, your earnings; any left out matter you think should be made known to your potential spouse for selection. You have 1000 characters to write well for your marriage. Do not fill the column with Dots, dashes or slashes. Doing so will only reflect your inability to describe yourself. Do not use any single character repeatedly to fill up the entire text box, with or without any space.
Positively write your Partner Preferences for Marriage. This will help the system to auto-match your requirements and send you alert if a new member possessing your Partner preferences registers in the system.
Adding Photographs
Finally, after submitting the filled up Matrimonial Profile, using the Log In and Password sent to your registered Email address, log in to the system, which will take you to your Home Page being created for you. From here you can upload three different photographs - one main photo and two other for the album, depending upon the set up of the program of the Matrimonial Website.
Photographs speak more than 1000 words. Let your photo be a good one, vivid and smart. A person planning for his or her Marriage first searches the Matrimonial Profiles with photographs. By adding the Photo you give your potential spouse a fair chance to form an idea about your personality coupled with the description you have given in your Profile. Photographs help take a spontaneous decision in the selection for preliminary contact for marriage purpose. It has been seen that the Profiles having Photographs receive 5 to 10 times more response from the potential spouses than the ones without Photographs.
If you are reluctant to display your Photographs and believe that though the photographs speak more than 1000 words, they do not speak reality, due to the absence of your photogenic face cut, then you could mention in your Matrimonial Profile that the same will be sent to the person separately on demand, or could be given on the first personal contact with you or with your family.
Naeem Syed is the Founder And CEO of Shaadmaani.Com A Social Worker And Responsible Citizen of India, Naeem Syed has a couple of Websites for the benefit of Citizens of this world. He writes on Social Issues and Cultures. Naeem Syed may be contacted at http://www.Shaadmaani.Com
Sad End of Matrimonial and Marriage Bliss - Dowry Hampers the Extreme Marital Happiness.
Marriage, being a noble cause and necessity for a decent living and home-making, helps expand the wings of Matrimonial relationship far beyond, crossing every border every religion, region, caste and creed. Marriage is the legitimate means of making the family develop and expand on the universe with responsibilities shouldered shared, and delegated on to the progeny, generation to generation. Shaadmaani the extreme Matrimonial Happiness is achieved by the mankind, irrespective of its Region, Religion, Belief or Color with a sole and noble aim to get together every eligible male and female into the bond of a Marriage Bliss - a happy start of their life afresh, an entirely new experience, exploration and expansion of their horizon in the right direction.
It is observed in India and in sub-continents the phenomena of Dowry System that has been prevailing amongst every society and its side and bad effects on the daily lives of the people, who are involved and on those who are around. Let us analyze as to how this practice of Demanding Dowry developed over the years:
When Princesses of a dynasty got married, the Daddy-King offered, out of overwhelming joy, a part of his wealth and his State to his Sons-in-Law. His Ministers maintaining neat protocol to their levels also followed this regal practice. On the sight of such a grandiose wedding functions and ostentatious material, high-ranking officers too wished to offer something to the new comers to their family via wedlock. They offered gold if not diamonds, household articles if not ancient artifacts, employment with the government if not property. The public in general, irrespective of rich and poor, followed this showy practice to maintain 'prestige' and felt great at par with the still rich society.
This dubious matrimonial tradition however, seeped into the homes of the poor and downtrodden people to muster a false respect. By then there was already present a guilty conscious feeling of giving birth to and fostering of girl children. Also the growing percentage of female births over male children contributed its share to the corrupt system. The fact that every home having more girls than boys alarmed the elders make hurry in giving their daughters in marriage. This created a ground for competition. This attitude paved the way for the grooms and their parents to demand Dowry of their choice.
The Dowry system has recently become so popular that every groom felt proud and gaudy on the number of items, weight of gold and amount of money he received. The parents of the girls too sighed in relief over gifting their sons-in-law with such things. They relaxed indebted because their daughters will be well respected and best treated by their in-laws, as compared to their counterparts. The daughters too take pride in grabbing so much from their parents and loose no opportunity to highlight their material superiority over other girls of their position in the family they enter. The less adorned daughter feels small of the situation and either quarrels with her in-laws or pesters her parents to give her more so that she could also gain equal respect in the family of her husband. These skirmishes within the family engulf every member and take shapes to different dimensions, such as division of families, separation of couples, divorce, endless enmity, court cases, loss of happiness, and personal feud.
You could see the women acting like enemies of women in almost all the families while they start the talk of marriage. The boy's mother often makes the entire family silent by one sweep of her tongue in bargaining for the money and gold ornaments she would prefer her daughter-in-law to bring in and deposit with her. A few mothers argue that they too brought such things when they got married and a few rearrange the in-laws' ornaments into a give-away dowry for their own daughters, thus inviting trouble and unwanted remarks from the daughter-in-law and her family.
Covetousness, fondness for easy money, false prestige among friends' circles etc. make a boy to beg dowry from the girl's parents. He doesn't realize that he is selling himself by behaving like a male-prostitute for an amount disproportionate to his status. He behaves like an obedient child, who never crossed the Lakshman Rekha (a line drawn by Rama's brother before Seeta asking her not to cross this line) any time drawn by his parents, till he receives the dowry in full.
Ponder over the plights of the parents who cannot afford to pay hefty dowry on Wedding that is demanded from them disproportionately, by the Groom's family or by the Groom himself.
Due to the Dowry system the marriage becomes burden.
It is heartening to note the fact that it is the Demand of Dowry which creates hatred towards female child and misguides the parents to kill the female newborns, instigate forcible abortions, develops cracks in the unity of the family, spoils good relationship between couples, ends in enmity, causes gas stoves to blow up, and brings death to the young brides. Due to the Disproportionate Dowry System the marriage becomes a burden, prostitution becomes very easy and the married-life takes shape of a hell.
The Middle East Dowry System is working in the reverse order. Here the Demand of Dowry comes from the Bride's side. The Hefty and unjustified demands make spinsters many a thousand girls, who otherwise could have well settled in their Married Life achieving Matrimonial Bliss throughout. Boys struggle for years to get married. Wealthy families easily get their male children wedded, whereas the poor and middle class boys take years to work hard and save for their marriage.
A Law of the Land will not be sufficient to curb this demonic practice. Any family, which goes to get their boy married, must understand that begging Dowry is not a Royal Practice or prestige in the society but a curse to them and a sin committed by them. This would definitely lower the status of the boy and his family. The boy-turned-groom must apprehend that easy money will never give him uplift to his life and he must be sensible to look into the economical standards of the girl's family. The relatives and in-laws must stop passing awkward and degrading comments taking a moral responsibility to appreciate and adjust with any shortfalls resulting due to an expensive and delicate new relationship. Then only this devilish Dowry demanding practice will be curbed or routed out and many unmarried will have their lives simplified and scorn-free from the in-laws.
While not opposing voluntary and proportionate give-away Dowry by parents to and for their children - newly wed couples, everyone must abhor and oppose Any Demand that is put forward as a pre-condition for marriage.
All responsible parents must encourage to discarding such an evil practice and making humble efforts towards the Noble Cause of getting their children wedded to live and lead a happy-married-life, with peace of mind.
Naeem Syed is the Founder And CEO of Shaadmaani.Com. A Social Worker And Responsible Citizen of India, Naeem Syed has a couple of Websites for the benefit of Citizens of this world. He writes on Social Issues and Cultures.
It is observed in India and in sub-continents the phenomena of Dowry System that has been prevailing amongst every society and its side and bad effects on the daily lives of the people, who are involved and on those who are around. Let us analyze as to how this practice of Demanding Dowry developed over the years:
When Princesses of a dynasty got married, the Daddy-King offered, out of overwhelming joy, a part of his wealth and his State to his Sons-in-Law. His Ministers maintaining neat protocol to their levels also followed this regal practice. On the sight of such a grandiose wedding functions and ostentatious material, high-ranking officers too wished to offer something to the new comers to their family via wedlock. They offered gold if not diamonds, household articles if not ancient artifacts, employment with the government if not property. The public in general, irrespective of rich and poor, followed this showy practice to maintain 'prestige' and felt great at par with the still rich society.
This dubious matrimonial tradition however, seeped into the homes of the poor and downtrodden people to muster a false respect. By then there was already present a guilty conscious feeling of giving birth to and fostering of girl children. Also the growing percentage of female births over male children contributed its share to the corrupt system. The fact that every home having more girls than boys alarmed the elders make hurry in giving their daughters in marriage. This created a ground for competition. This attitude paved the way for the grooms and their parents to demand Dowry of their choice.
The Dowry system has recently become so popular that every groom felt proud and gaudy on the number of items, weight of gold and amount of money he received. The parents of the girls too sighed in relief over gifting their sons-in-law with such things. They relaxed indebted because their daughters will be well respected and best treated by their in-laws, as compared to their counterparts. The daughters too take pride in grabbing so much from their parents and loose no opportunity to highlight their material superiority over other girls of their position in the family they enter. The less adorned daughter feels small of the situation and either quarrels with her in-laws or pesters her parents to give her more so that she could also gain equal respect in the family of her husband. These skirmishes within the family engulf every member and take shapes to different dimensions, such as division of families, separation of couples, divorce, endless enmity, court cases, loss of happiness, and personal feud.
You could see the women acting like enemies of women in almost all the families while they start the talk of marriage. The boy's mother often makes the entire family silent by one sweep of her tongue in bargaining for the money and gold ornaments she would prefer her daughter-in-law to bring in and deposit with her. A few mothers argue that they too brought such things when they got married and a few rearrange the in-laws' ornaments into a give-away dowry for their own daughters, thus inviting trouble and unwanted remarks from the daughter-in-law and her family.
Covetousness, fondness for easy money, false prestige among friends' circles etc. make a boy to beg dowry from the girl's parents. He doesn't realize that he is selling himself by behaving like a male-prostitute for an amount disproportionate to his status. He behaves like an obedient child, who never crossed the Lakshman Rekha (a line drawn by Rama's brother before Seeta asking her not to cross this line) any time drawn by his parents, till he receives the dowry in full.
Ponder over the plights of the parents who cannot afford to pay hefty dowry on Wedding that is demanded from them disproportionately, by the Groom's family or by the Groom himself.
Due to the Dowry system the marriage becomes burden.
It is heartening to note the fact that it is the Demand of Dowry which creates hatred towards female child and misguides the parents to kill the female newborns, instigate forcible abortions, develops cracks in the unity of the family, spoils good relationship between couples, ends in enmity, causes gas stoves to blow up, and brings death to the young brides. Due to the Disproportionate Dowry System the marriage becomes a burden, prostitution becomes very easy and the married-life takes shape of a hell.
The Middle East Dowry System is working in the reverse order. Here the Demand of Dowry comes from the Bride's side. The Hefty and unjustified demands make spinsters many a thousand girls, who otherwise could have well settled in their Married Life achieving Matrimonial Bliss throughout. Boys struggle for years to get married. Wealthy families easily get their male children wedded, whereas the poor and middle class boys take years to work hard and save for their marriage.
A Law of the Land will not be sufficient to curb this demonic practice. Any family, which goes to get their boy married, must understand that begging Dowry is not a Royal Practice or prestige in the society but a curse to them and a sin committed by them. This would definitely lower the status of the boy and his family. The boy-turned-groom must apprehend that easy money will never give him uplift to his life and he must be sensible to look into the economical standards of the girl's family. The relatives and in-laws must stop passing awkward and degrading comments taking a moral responsibility to appreciate and adjust with any shortfalls resulting due to an expensive and delicate new relationship. Then only this devilish Dowry demanding practice will be curbed or routed out and many unmarried will have their lives simplified and scorn-free from the in-laws.
While not opposing voluntary and proportionate give-away Dowry by parents to and for their children - newly wed couples, everyone must abhor and oppose Any Demand that is put forward as a pre-condition for marriage.
All responsible parents must encourage to discarding such an evil practice and making humble efforts towards the Noble Cause of getting their children wedded to live and lead a happy-married-life, with peace of mind.
Naeem Syed is the Founder And CEO of Shaadmaani.Com. A Social Worker And Responsible Citizen of India, Naeem Syed has a couple of Websites for the benefit of Citizens of this world. He writes on Social Issues and Cultures.
Do Muslim Matrimonial Sites Really Work?
Muslim matrimonial sites are nothing new to Muslims. These matrimonial sites have been circulating for years and have a small but rapidly growing following in the Muslim community. The way they operate is simple enough, single Muslims join looking for a partner but unlike other 'dating sites', the emphasis is not on dating but on finding a suitable marriage partner for life. Therefore the individuals who are on these sites are comparatively more serious about their search for a partner as casual dating is not permitted in Islam.
The alternatives to Muslim matrimonial sites are arranged marriages. A prospect which fills the majority of Muslims with trepidation and uneasiness. The thought of entering into a life long relationship with someone who you have put your faith into your parents into finding for you can make ones nerves unsteady. Arranged marriages are not necessarily how they show in the media as both men and women are able to agree or disagree to the prospective bride or groom. This still has its drawbacks though. The parents, although having the best of intentions, are not going to have to live with this person. The families involved may be looking out for their own best interests such as keeping up a certain status in the community by marrying their children into other families.
Muslim dating and matrimonial sites have risen from the ashes of the arranged marriages fiasco. They offer men and women the chance to control their own destiny. The internet has brought about a very progressive movement in the way couples have met online and why shouldn't it also help Muslims who are finding it difficult to find love in the West. Drinking is not permitted so meeting others in outside social gatherings is usually limited to a few choice areas. And what about the Muslims who live in areas which are sparsely populated by other Muslims, how are they expected to even meet other Muslims.
Chances are that someone you know has already joined a dating or matrimonial site. Approximately 1 in 5 in the UK have used some type of relationship site in the past or are currently using it. The popularity speaks for its success. Muslim matrimonial sites are more specialized as they are specifically targeting Muslims.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined a matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality or character. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
The question of whether these sites can help Muslims to find suitable and life long partners is a resounding yes. But just remember that while they can help by giving you all the up to date information needed about other Muslims in your area, they still require you to be able to make the right choices in your search to find a partner. So be true to yourself and what you are looking for and love will find you.
Shazia Shah is a practicing Muslim and has been a driving force behind the Muslim Matrimonials website http://www.asians4asians.com and http://www.muslimandsingle.com With Muslim Members from all over the UK and rest of the world.
The alternatives to Muslim matrimonial sites are arranged marriages. A prospect which fills the majority of Muslims with trepidation and uneasiness. The thought of entering into a life long relationship with someone who you have put your faith into your parents into finding for you can make ones nerves unsteady. Arranged marriages are not necessarily how they show in the media as both men and women are able to agree or disagree to the prospective bride or groom. This still has its drawbacks though. The parents, although having the best of intentions, are not going to have to live with this person. The families involved may be looking out for their own best interests such as keeping up a certain status in the community by marrying their children into other families.
Muslim dating and matrimonial sites have risen from the ashes of the arranged marriages fiasco. They offer men and women the chance to control their own destiny. The internet has brought about a very progressive movement in the way couples have met online and why shouldn't it also help Muslims who are finding it difficult to find love in the West. Drinking is not permitted so meeting others in outside social gatherings is usually limited to a few choice areas. And what about the Muslims who live in areas which are sparsely populated by other Muslims, how are they expected to even meet other Muslims.
Chances are that someone you know has already joined a dating or matrimonial site. Approximately 1 in 5 in the UK have used some type of relationship site in the past or are currently using it. The popularity speaks for its success. Muslim matrimonial sites are more specialized as they are specifically targeting Muslims.
Many Muslims still feel uncomfortable about admitting they have joined a matrimonial sites. It is under the misconception that online matrimonial sites are only exclusive to the desperate or those that have something fundamentally wrong with their personality or character. This is simply not the case. Marriage websites have grown to become a useful and viable option when searching for a partner. Where else could you gain so much information about a prospective groom or bride without having to travel half way across the country.
The question of whether these sites can help Muslims to find suitable and life long partners is a resounding yes. But just remember that while they can help by giving you all the up to date information needed about other Muslims in your area, they still require you to be able to make the right choices in your search to find a partner. So be true to yourself and what you are looking for and love will find you.
Shazia Shah is a practicing Muslim and has been a driving force behind the Muslim Matrimonials website http://www.asians4asians.com and http://www.muslimandsingle.com With Muslim Members from all over the UK and rest of the world.
Muslims Dating Online - A Modern Approach To Marriage.
Muslims have a hard time finding love and romance. They have either the choice of an arranged marriage or finding a partner on their own initiative. When we talk of arranged marriages then it usually means that parents are involved and the potential newly weds would be able to meet each other and give their feelings if they are happy to go along with the wedding or to carry on looking. However, arranged marriages are becoming less and less popular in the West.
Young Muslims today have turned to other mediums to find love. Asking friends to match you up is fine but you never really know who that other person is. Many Muslims feel uncomfortable about dating as some young men and women are only interested in casual dating and nothing more serious or committed.
Muslim matrimonial sites have sprung up in response to the demand for a safe way for Muslims looking for marriage can meet. There is anonymity so all of your personal details are secured away from prying eyes. You will be able to view thousands of other Muslims profiles and can narrow your search down to find someone who fits your lifestyle and criteria exactly. Something that would be very difficult to do if you are relying on family to do. Let's say for example that you are a practicing Muslim who prays 5 times a day and want to find someone who is equally committed to Islam. By viewing other members profiles you will be able to see what type of Muslims they are i.e. do they wear a hijab, niqab, have a beard, do regular prayers, etc.
One common misconception is that everyone on these types of meeting sites are lying or embellishing their profiles to make them more appealing. This may be true to a certain extent, but remember that these Muslims want to meet other Muslims for possible marriage, they would be deceiving themselves if they were to embellish their profiles.
Are 'matrimonial sites' permitted in Islam? Casual dating without the purpose for marriage is not permitted in Islam. Online matrimonial sites allow the users to speak with other members without having to go out with them. Parents can always play an active role in the search online too.
Online Matchmaking removes the awkwardness of meeting other single Muslims. No feelings are hurt and no one has traveled many miles to meet. There is an understanding that is shared on these Muslim matrimonial sites that is not felt on other dating sites. As an Islamic matrimonial site it is instantly viewed as a site where being a Muslim is the first criteria for all.
Living in a modern society where an estimated 50% of all marriages are destined to end in divorce, surely any advantages that can help us find a life long match is worth considering. Dating sites are also very common as 1 in 5 people have used some sort of online match making web site, this can only attest to its success and popularity. There is no longer a need for Muslims to feel that only the desperate use Muslim Matrimonial sites as these sites have proved themselves to be very appealing to Muslims from all around the world.
Shazia Shah is a practicing Muslim and has been a driving force behind the Muslim Matrimonials website http://www.asians4asians.com and http://www.muslimandsingle.com With Muslim Members from all over the UK and rest of the world.
Young Muslims today have turned to other mediums to find love. Asking friends to match you up is fine but you never really know who that other person is. Many Muslims feel uncomfortable about dating as some young men and women are only interested in casual dating and nothing more serious or committed.
Muslim matrimonial sites have sprung up in response to the demand for a safe way for Muslims looking for marriage can meet. There is anonymity so all of your personal details are secured away from prying eyes. You will be able to view thousands of other Muslims profiles and can narrow your search down to find someone who fits your lifestyle and criteria exactly. Something that would be very difficult to do if you are relying on family to do. Let's say for example that you are a practicing Muslim who prays 5 times a day and want to find someone who is equally committed to Islam. By viewing other members profiles you will be able to see what type of Muslims they are i.e. do they wear a hijab, niqab, have a beard, do regular prayers, etc.
One common misconception is that everyone on these types of meeting sites are lying or embellishing their profiles to make them more appealing. This may be true to a certain extent, but remember that these Muslims want to meet other Muslims for possible marriage, they would be deceiving themselves if they were to embellish their profiles.
Are 'matrimonial sites' permitted in Islam? Casual dating without the purpose for marriage is not permitted in Islam. Online matrimonial sites allow the users to speak with other members without having to go out with them. Parents can always play an active role in the search online too.
Online Matchmaking removes the awkwardness of meeting other single Muslims. No feelings are hurt and no one has traveled many miles to meet. There is an understanding that is shared on these Muslim matrimonial sites that is not felt on other dating sites. As an Islamic matrimonial site it is instantly viewed as a site where being a Muslim is the first criteria for all.
Living in a modern society where an estimated 50% of all marriages are destined to end in divorce, surely any advantages that can help us find a life long match is worth considering. Dating sites are also very common as 1 in 5 people have used some sort of online match making web site, this can only attest to its success and popularity. There is no longer a need for Muslims to feel that only the desperate use Muslim Matrimonial sites as these sites have proved themselves to be very appealing to Muslims from all around the world.
Shazia Shah is a practicing Muslim and has been a driving force behind the Muslim Matrimonials website http://www.asians4asians.com and http://www.muslimandsingle.com With Muslim Members from all over the UK and rest of the world.
Significance of a Betel Leaf in Indian weddings.
From time immemorial, Hindus have worshipped trees and have considered all flora and fauna as sacred. Trees, plants, leaves, flowers and fruit have an esteemed position in the religion and culture of India. So much so that no religious function especially Indian matrimonial is considered complete without the presence of at least one of the above. Leaves like the betel, banana, mango, Neem, tulsi, durva are intrinsically woven into the tapestry of Indian weddings.
The betel leaf enjoys the pride of place among all the accessories of a Hindu wedding. The betel leaf denotes freshness and prosperity. Betel leaves or the tambool, which comprises betel leaf, areca nut and lime, marks the beginnings of all auspicious events. In Indian matrimonial, alliances are sealed by exchanging the tambool. Invitations for an Indian marriage are distributed with tambool forming an important part of the invite. The betel is associated with the Trinity, Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva. Brahma: arecanut, Vishnu: betel leaf, and Shiva: lime.
The grooms' party is welcomed with betel leaves and every event in the wedding is solemnized with betel leaves. The tambool is the minimum and essential part of hospitality in every Indian wedding.
In some weddings, a betel leaf is tucked into the headgear of the bride and groom.
In certain regions the groom's mother or sister gives a ceremonial welcome to the bride. Seven cups are placed on a platter along with fruits, betel leaves, rice, sacred ash, turmeric, salt, tamarind and cotton. A measuring cup is filled with paddy and a betel leaf is placed on it. This is called the 'nirai nazhi'. Water is placed in a vessel and the bride stands facing the east. The person performing the ceremony touches the seven cups three times and puts sacred ash on herself and on the bride. After this is done twenty one times, the bride is given a betel leaf and water is poured on it. The person conducting the ceremony touches the leaf to her forehead giving her a ceremonial welcome.
In yet another ritual comprising the betel, the girl's brother gives the ceremonial first betel to the couple to chew. This ritual is the thaamboola charvanam.
Betel leaves along with coconut or fruit are given as a token of thanks to every guest attending the wedding.
Anish Sapra is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting Shaadi.com and Shaaditimes.com as a Family and Relationship specialist.
The betel leaf enjoys the pride of place among all the accessories of a Hindu wedding. The betel leaf denotes freshness and prosperity. Betel leaves or the tambool, which comprises betel leaf, areca nut and lime, marks the beginnings of all auspicious events. In Indian matrimonial, alliances are sealed by exchanging the tambool. Invitations for an Indian marriage are distributed with tambool forming an important part of the invite. The betel is associated with the Trinity, Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva. Brahma: arecanut, Vishnu: betel leaf, and Shiva: lime.
The grooms' party is welcomed with betel leaves and every event in the wedding is solemnized with betel leaves. The tambool is the minimum and essential part of hospitality in every Indian wedding.
In some weddings, a betel leaf is tucked into the headgear of the bride and groom.
In certain regions the groom's mother or sister gives a ceremonial welcome to the bride. Seven cups are placed on a platter along with fruits, betel leaves, rice, sacred ash, turmeric, salt, tamarind and cotton. A measuring cup is filled with paddy and a betel leaf is placed on it. This is called the 'nirai nazhi'. Water is placed in a vessel and the bride stands facing the east. The person performing the ceremony touches the seven cups three times and puts sacred ash on herself and on the bride. After this is done twenty one times, the bride is given a betel leaf and water is poured on it. The person conducting the ceremony touches the leaf to her forehead giving her a ceremonial welcome.
In yet another ritual comprising the betel, the girl's brother gives the ceremonial first betel to the couple to chew. This ritual is the thaamboola charvanam.
Betel leaves along with coconut or fruit are given as a token of thanks to every guest attending the wedding.
Anish Sapra is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting Shaadi.com and Shaaditimes.com as a Family and Relationship specialist.
The Indian Matrimonial Dictionary.
Indian matrimonial columns are something. When it comes to attitude and language, there's no beating them. They also reveal a lot about society. 'Wheatish', 'homely', 'convent-educated', 'innocent divorcee' - are terms you find in Indian matrimonial classifieds and carry their own esoteric meanings.
To begin with, are 'brides wanted' and 'grooms wanted' really derogatory terms treating love as commodity in the 'marriage market' governed by the economic principles of demand and supply? But many people like Swapan Mukherjee, Sociologist by profession, disagrees, "Brides Wanted and Grooms Wanted are not derogatory terms. They signify the need of the advertiser and classify the requirement in specific columns." In support Psychologist Chrisann Almeida states ,"Marriage is deemed essential for virtually everyone in India, so the term "wanted" actually reflects an almost dire need, so I don't think it's derogatory as such. I am disheartened about the lack of romance, but this is the reality of things in India."
Indian Matrimonial advertisements have not shown much change over the years. Ever since the 50s almost everyone wanted to marry a fair girl and the groom had to be financially established and from a so-called respectable family. Though most families were quite particular as far as caste and even gotra was considered, even in 1947, there were advertisements in which 'caste, community and religion' were no bar. Divorces were quite unheard of in 1947 but there were grooms from liberal families quite open to the idea of marrying a widow. However, over the years more importance has been paid to a girl's professional and academic background. When India just got independent it would generally suffice if the girl was just a matriculate and even 16-year-olds were considered old enough for marriage. Dowry hadn't been made a crime so it was asked for openly in print. Browsing through Indian matrimonial classifieds which appeared in the Amrita Bazar Patrika in 1947, one comes across lines like, 'preference to party willing to bear groom's foreign studies expenses' or 'reasonable / liberal dowry'. There were a few cases in which no dowry was asked for or the bride's father boldly refused to pay dowry. A nationalistic father had advertised in the year of the Indian Independence for his daughter's marriage stating- 'unable to pay adequate dowry according to modern foppish standards.'
A glance at contemporary Indian matrimonial classifieds reveals words like 'beautiful', 'professionally-qualified', 'respectable family', 'caring' etc... this may lead one to wonder - are all those who are advertising themselves as good-looking, virtuous and from well-to-do families as claimed in print? If it was really so why don't we see as many gorgeous looking people with great jobs all around us in everyday life? Why doesn't humility ever feature in matrimonial classifieds?
The above just proves matrimonial advertising is very simply either about selling yourself, or sourcing a suitable mate, so you go the whole hog and sell yourself as hard as you can. Ever heard of any manufacturer underselling his product or service? Ditto for matrimonial ads!
Anish Sapra is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting Shaadi.com and Shaaditimes.com as a Family and Relationship specialist.
To begin with, are 'brides wanted' and 'grooms wanted' really derogatory terms treating love as commodity in the 'marriage market' governed by the economic principles of demand and supply? But many people like Swapan Mukherjee, Sociologist by profession, disagrees, "Brides Wanted and Grooms Wanted are not derogatory terms. They signify the need of the advertiser and classify the requirement in specific columns." In support Psychologist Chrisann Almeida states ,"Marriage is deemed essential for virtually everyone in India, so the term "wanted" actually reflects an almost dire need, so I don't think it's derogatory as such. I am disheartened about the lack of romance, but this is the reality of things in India."
Indian Matrimonial advertisements have not shown much change over the years. Ever since the 50s almost everyone wanted to marry a fair girl and the groom had to be financially established and from a so-called respectable family. Though most families were quite particular as far as caste and even gotra was considered, even in 1947, there were advertisements in which 'caste, community and religion' were no bar. Divorces were quite unheard of in 1947 but there were grooms from liberal families quite open to the idea of marrying a widow. However, over the years more importance has been paid to a girl's professional and academic background. When India just got independent it would generally suffice if the girl was just a matriculate and even 16-year-olds were considered old enough for marriage. Dowry hadn't been made a crime so it was asked for openly in print. Browsing through Indian matrimonial classifieds which appeared in the Amrita Bazar Patrika in 1947, one comes across lines like, 'preference to party willing to bear groom's foreign studies expenses' or 'reasonable / liberal dowry'. There were a few cases in which no dowry was asked for or the bride's father boldly refused to pay dowry. A nationalistic father had advertised in the year of the Indian Independence for his daughter's marriage stating- 'unable to pay adequate dowry according to modern foppish standards.'
A glance at contemporary Indian matrimonial classifieds reveals words like 'beautiful', 'professionally-qualified', 'respectable family', 'caring' etc... this may lead one to wonder - are all those who are advertising themselves as good-looking, virtuous and from well-to-do families as claimed in print? If it was really so why don't we see as many gorgeous looking people with great jobs all around us in everyday life? Why doesn't humility ever feature in matrimonial classifieds?
The above just proves matrimonial advertising is very simply either about selling yourself, or sourcing a suitable mate, so you go the whole hog and sell yourself as hard as you can. Ever heard of any manufacturer underselling his product or service? Ditto for matrimonial ads!
Anish Sapra is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He has written authoritative articles on relationships and marriage and is currently assisting Shaadi.com and Shaaditimes.com as a Family and Relationship specialist.
How Did You Meet Your Partner.
In a recent survey conducted by Shaaditimes on 'How did you meet your partner?' the stats thrown up were eyeopeners. Wherein 45.67% of those who voted said they found their partners through either family or friends, nearly 22% of them confessed to having found love online and 32.60% said they found their partners at work.
In the next few paras we discuss why online partner searches are catching up...
Choosing Partners Online
Whenever someone asks Nina how she met her husband, she proudly says, "Online!" But of course, I think to myself... Where else would one meet up with one's significant other nowadays?
Actually, this attitude is probably not the norm in society. At least not yet. But before long, it wouldn't surprise me to find that matrimonial sites have surpassed other forms of meeting one's significant other. Simply because it is well-ordered, produces better matches and lets love to bloom when the silly things (such as actually having something in common) are already taken care of way ahead of time.
Well-Ordered
Using online matrimonial sites are far better ordered than other methods of partner search. Getting set up by friends or family is purely a hit-or-miss proposition, while well wishers, friends and family often don't really know us half as well as they think they do. We don't often share all of the intimate details of our lives, our likes, dislikes, hopes, and dreams for the future with everyone. So people can get somewhat biased ideas of what we're like, because they only see what we're like with them.
Office romances, while convenient, are often burdened with possible problems, danger, and role conflicts. Encountering people randomly at clubs or in bookstores or other interests such as hobbies is pure chance. While appealing to our romantic, impulsive side, you're better off throwing darts at random names within a phone book. There's nothing efficient or really, fun, about spending countless hours drinking in a club looking for supposed "Mr. Right." Chances are he left with the woman just before you.
Better Matches
Matrimonial sites allows you to get to know the person you may want to meet long before you ever actually have to meet them! How cool is that? Most people communicate a great deal by email or IM first, before talking on the phone. You've spent time reading their online profile, which includes not only their likes and dislikes, but hopes, dreams, reading and movie preferences, hobbies, annual income and in some cases, shoe sizes. While these things vary in importance, they provide a fairly accurate snapshot of a person (or at least as much as they want you to know).
There's been a great deal of research to show that couples who are more compatible are more likely to remain committed in a relationship to one another. Lack of compatibility often comes from lack of knowledge and knowing one's partner as honestly and truly as one believes. Online services gives you the chance to slow things down a bit and really get to know the person, again, sometimes long before you've ever gone on that first face-to-face date. That's a good thing, because it means you're more likely to find compatibility that works for you online.
Let Love To Bloom
Once you start meeting people through an online site, you already know a lot about the person when you go on your first date. That doesn't mean everything will always go smoothly, or that every proposal is going to be one with Ms. Right. But it does mean that you can relax your guard a little and stop worrying about providing and getting information from the other, or discover that every hobby or interest you like, he detests. Instead, you're starting out on common ground with a lot to talk about and a lot to enjoy. With so much less pressure on your meeting, online sites allow love to take root and more fully bloom far more easily than other methods.
Matrimonial sites may still seem a bit odd to some people, but then again, those folks have discovered the secret of it. You have, or are considering it, and for that, you're already a step ahead of many others. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
In the next few paras we discuss why online partner searches are catching up...
Choosing Partners Online
Whenever someone asks Nina how she met her husband, she proudly says, "Online!" But of course, I think to myself... Where else would one meet up with one's significant other nowadays?
Actually, this attitude is probably not the norm in society. At least not yet. But before long, it wouldn't surprise me to find that matrimonial sites have surpassed other forms of meeting one's significant other. Simply because it is well-ordered, produces better matches and lets love to bloom when the silly things (such as actually having something in common) are already taken care of way ahead of time.
Well-Ordered
Using online matrimonial sites are far better ordered than other methods of partner search. Getting set up by friends or family is purely a hit-or-miss proposition, while well wishers, friends and family often don't really know us half as well as they think they do. We don't often share all of the intimate details of our lives, our likes, dislikes, hopes, and dreams for the future with everyone. So people can get somewhat biased ideas of what we're like, because they only see what we're like with them.
Office romances, while convenient, are often burdened with possible problems, danger, and role conflicts. Encountering people randomly at clubs or in bookstores or other interests such as hobbies is pure chance. While appealing to our romantic, impulsive side, you're better off throwing darts at random names within a phone book. There's nothing efficient or really, fun, about spending countless hours drinking in a club looking for supposed "Mr. Right." Chances are he left with the woman just before you.
Better Matches
Matrimonial sites allows you to get to know the person you may want to meet long before you ever actually have to meet them! How cool is that? Most people communicate a great deal by email or IM first, before talking on the phone. You've spent time reading their online profile, which includes not only their likes and dislikes, but hopes, dreams, reading and movie preferences, hobbies, annual income and in some cases, shoe sizes. While these things vary in importance, they provide a fairly accurate snapshot of a person (or at least as much as they want you to know).
There's been a great deal of research to show that couples who are more compatible are more likely to remain committed in a relationship to one another. Lack of compatibility often comes from lack of knowledge and knowing one's partner as honestly and truly as one believes. Online services gives you the chance to slow things down a bit and really get to know the person, again, sometimes long before you've ever gone on that first face-to-face date. That's a good thing, because it means you're more likely to find compatibility that works for you online.
Let Love To Bloom
Once you start meeting people through an online site, you already know a lot about the person when you go on your first date. That doesn't mean everything will always go smoothly, or that every proposal is going to be one with Ms. Right. But it does mean that you can relax your guard a little and stop worrying about providing and getting information from the other, or discover that every hobby or interest you like, he detests. Instead, you're starting out on common ground with a lot to talk about and a lot to enjoy. With so much less pressure on your meeting, online sites allow love to take root and more fully bloom far more easily than other methods.
Matrimonial sites may still seem a bit odd to some people, but then again, those folks have discovered the secret of it. You have, or are considering it, and for that, you're already a step ahead of many others. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
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